Recognizing That You Are the Problem and Dealing with Yourself

Blaming others when things go wrong is much easier than digging and recognizing what really the problem is.

While listening to Robert Kiyosaki‘s audiobook, Rich Dad Poor Dad, one thing that really struck me was when he said when he first confronted his Rich Dad about why he doesn’t like being underpaid and that he only agreed about working with him because he promised that he would teach him how to “make money” but for 3 weeks that he has been working with him, his Rich Dad didn’t teach him anything nor talked with him during the said period. Robert grew impatient and concluded that the Rich Dad was the problem.

His Rich Dad told him that if he continues to believe that he is the problem, he would become like his any other employees who either continue working with him and keep blaming him for the problem or like others who would quit and still keep the thought that their boss was the problem and would hope for a big break that would help them improve their financial status. If they keep such attitude and continue believing that the boss is the problem, the Rich Dad said, “There’s nothing you can do about it”. But if you change your attitude and recognize that the problem is your attitude towards work, you will realize and even empower yourself with the chance to change and improve than growing bitter and bitter each day.

Then it hit me. It really makes a big difference when you recognize and accept that maybe, it’s not the people around you that has problems but it’s YOU.

The more we come to that realization, we could have better chances of changing things.

There’s Something You Can Do

Instead of becoming a sour grape and continue blaming others, why don’t we start accepting the fact that there’s always two sides in everything and though others may contribute to how things go, the other side is you. And though you may not have control over the others, you still have control over yourself.

Isn’t it empowering to think that there’s something you can do about yourself than the usual thought that others cause the problem?

When life throws us stones, we can always make bricks out of it and build a stepping stone towards our goals. When life gives us lemons, why not make a lemonade? You see, there’s nothing we can do about what life gives us, but there’s always something we can do about how we react to them.

Recognizing that the problem is You makes it easier to deal with the problem because above anything and anyone else, you can have better control of yourself than others could have control over you.

If you think your boss is the problem, you can spend the rest of your life trying to blame him for what went wrong, or you could choose to accept that your attitude towards things could be a problem too. And with that, you can try to fix your perspective and fix things than trying to control someone else.

Comments

  1. says

    You are so right! I know the problem is me, and I’m working on it. I am procrastinating and seem very lazy. Heck, maybe I am very lazy. It’s hard to cut through your own “noise” and really hear what that inner voice is telling you. Especially when you know that you don’t like the message!

    I’m working on it, and I am seeing some success with it. I wish you the best, and am glad I found your blog at Danny’s place. I’m glad you finally decided to post it. :)

    • says

      Hi Paula,

      I’m so glad that you’re doing something about it. It’s indeed difficult to accept that there’s something that you need to change about yourself but once you do, you will see that things will start to become better and will work out for your best.

      Thanks for dropping by, it means so much to me. Let me know how the changes goes for you :-)

  2. says

    Hi Paula,

    I’m so glad that you’re doing something about it. It’s indeed difficult to accept that there’s something that you need to change about yourself but once you do, you will see that things will start to become better and will work out for your best.

    Thanks for dropping by, it means so much to me. Let me know how the changes goes for you :-)Hi Paula,

    I’m so glad that you’re doing something about it. It’s indeed difficult to accept that there’s something that you need to change about yourself but once you do, you will see that things will start to become better and will work out for your best.

    Thanks for dropping by, it means so much to me. Let me know how the changes goes for you :-)

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